Of principles and disciples

She asked: Do I have to forgive him?

Well, the answer is no, you do not. At least, people can tell you to do so, but whether or not you do will always be up to you. It is a mind/heart matter. You can keep knocking on a thousand doors, and each time you will hear “Forgiveness is the righteous path”. Yes, you can keep knocking doors hoping you’ll find that one that says “Leave. Walk out with your head held high”

She whispers: ..I want to. I really really  want to. I wish I could. *her head hangs low*

But what?

Forgiveness is the easier path. You bury the mistakes, never mention it again and hope for the best. Your life continues on the same path that you were on. Nothing really changes, except how you feel.

She purses her lips, and mutters: Does it really matter then, how I feel?

Of course it does.

But to whom?

When we talk of punishments, of suffering, of pain, of crime, being forgiven comforts the perpetrator. They say it should bring closure and calm to the victim. Does it? It should, shouldn’t it? Living a life with a grudge hangs on and weighs you down. It does nothing to the perpetrator.

It does nothing.

Unless, you have a plan. An action plan. A plan that you are willing to follow through.

And that, is the hard part.

A lot of work, surely.

So the question is, do you put in effort towards forgiveness and acceptance, or do you put in effort towards leaving.

It’s in your hands. Choose wisely.