Re: Adding me to groups without my prior consent.

I am aware that I am far from up to date when it comes to social media and technology. But is there a way I can prevent people from adding me into groups? It’s one thing when it’s a group that makes sense, like your family creates a group so you guys can communicate family stuff without the prying eyes of non-family members, or alumni of a school/college. Those sort of make sense, depending on what ends up on your news feed.

 

The problem begins with what ends up on my news feed.

 

Remember when I posted the rant on forwarded messages? Well, this is kind of a similar rant. Just a head’s up, if you didn’t agree with me on the first rant, I’m guessing you won’t agree with me on this one either so you should just probably stop reading.

 

 

So here’s the situation:

Every now and then, I scroll through my news feed, just like everyone else. Wedding photos, baby photos, people showing off the “good” they are doing, marathon runs, frustrated outbursts, the occasional poems by elderly people,….these are the typical things that creep up in my news feed these days. Fine…these are what I know of these people, and if I didn’t like what they were posting, I have the option of unfriending them. Right? So the assumption is that I keep them on my friend list due to one of the following reasons:

(1)    They are my family; who mostly live far from me, and this is my means of keeping in touch with them and knowing (Read: stalking) what sort of things to bring up during festive celebrations; which is pretty much the only time I see them.

(2)    They are friends, who I definitely know in person, and wish to maintain some sort of tie to; despite the fact that I hardly interact directly with them.

 

I seriously do not add on random strangers. I find it disturbing and distasteful. Unless I have met you in person, you do not go on the friend list. Comprende?

 

 

As of late, some of these people within my list have taken liberty at including me into groups. The problem is that these groups then link to God-knows-what and people posting idiotic stuff (similar irritation as to the content of the forwarded stuff) into the groups which then floods my news feed.

 

 

AND

 

 

IT’S

 

 

THE

 

 

SAME

 

 

 

GOD

 

 

 

 

DAMN

 

 

 

 

 

STUFF

 

 

 

 

AGAIN

 

 

 

 

 

AGAIN

 

 

 

 

AND AGAIN!!!

 

 

 

 

And it’s not even intelligent stuff. Mostly the stuff that butt-hurt people consider to be important enough to be posted into groups. Yes, I know those sexy pics of that celebrity with a judgmental caption will garner you the attention your mother never gave you as a child, but do I want to read about it? 15 times a day? Let me give you a clue. It starts with an “N” and ends with a “HELL NOOOOO!!!!”

 

 

Mostly I’m added to these groups by people trying to get their share in the booming online businesses. And in order for them to enter their ads into those groups they have to add like, 50 members or something like that. Lucky me. And then when I try to tell them nicely that I don’t like the content of those groups to creep up in my news feed and to please stop adding me to random groups, I get the following responses:

 

(1)    Well, you say that now, but we’ll see when you want to start your own business. Huff.

(2)    I’m sharing a good thing with you. How ungrateful!

(3)    If you needed my help I wouldn’t think twice about doing the same favor for you.

(4)    You can turn off the notifications if they bother you so much.

(5)    Hmmph. This goes to show how supportive “our people” are of small new businesses.

 

 

*Blood starts boiling*

 

Here’s my reply:

(1)    Well thanks to you, I know how damn irritating it is to be randomly added to groups is, so I know not to do it to someone else. Thank you for showing me what NOT to do if and when I should have my own business.

(2)    All that comes up are light-core celebrity porn/gossip and the SAME DAMN ADS!!! Thank you for spreading gossip? Yeah, sure, I should totally be grateful.

(3)    You didn’t ask!!!! You just straight away added me there. I wasn’t given the opportunity to think. You undermined my ability to think rationally and put me somewhere I did not want to be. How would you like it if one day I swooped into your office Superman-style and dumped you in the middle of Kathmandu and said I’m doing you a favor by giving you a free trip to Kathmandu?? Huh? Would’ya like dat??

(4)    If you didn’t put me there I wouldn’t have to do that!!! You are inconveniencing me with the very act of having to do something about being in a group for which I did not choose to be in!!!! It’s like you waltzing into my house, turning on all the taps, leaving, then saying to me “well, you have the option of turning off the taps if the running water bothered you so much” If I was going to the trouble of turning off the notifications, I might as well leave the group and make sure you don’t re-add me to it!!! But oh no, you just add me to a different group!!!! HOoooooooooOOOooooo!!!!!!

(5)    So you’re going to play the race-card and play right into the ugly side of our stereotype eh? Tell me again how this is supposed to bring your business forward?

 

 

 

So I have resorted to being a social grouch. If the person falls under the following category, not only do I remove myself from the group, but I also carefully remove myself from their friend list as well.

(1)    Acquaintances who I hardly knew “back in the day” anyway

(2)    People who ONLY talk about their business (beats the purpose of me keeping them in my friend list anyway-which is to keep in touch with people personally)

(3)    People who have done so repeatedly. I don’t care how close you think we are. You do that one too many times, you’re OUT!!!!!