Shed some light.

"I don't have a life"


Blame it on our job: how much it pays you, the hours that you work, the duration of your work, the nature of your field,....

Blame it on where you are: The shops close too early, the pubs stink, the clubs are full of ugly people, there is nowhere to go, the traffic makes it impossible to reach at a reasonable time, parking,....

Blame it on your family: They always want me with them, I am not allowed out, I have to care for my siblings/ ailing parent,.....


And the list goes on....





And on.....




And on....







Before you make a quick judgement, whether onto yourself or onto others of whether who has "a life" and who doesn't, have you considered what it is to "have a life"?




Is it hanging out with friends, laughing and drinking to the early hours of dawn? Every day?

Is it being able to spend time with your mum and dad, play with your siblings, and eventually be the mum/dad and play with your children?

Is it having the coolest game console and making sweet sweet scores every night?

Is it bringing a new girl home every night?

Is it having the same girl to come home to, every night?

Being able to sleep whenever you want, how long you want?




Shouldn't life be what we decide it to be? Why should one person's happiness equate to yours? Decide for yourself, what fulfils you; what makes you want to get up; what do you want to have to say of yourself?



You can't have everything. If you want the fancy car, you'll have to work for it. Or if you want that hot babe, she'll need time AND maintenance.

Everyone is tired.


The auditor that comes home for a short three hour nap before starting a new day.

That fitness buff that works out 4 hours a day. He must make a living for himself too, somehow, right?

The teacher who teaches for half a day, but has five piles of books to mark, three books to read, class prep to do, and that parent who insists on "speaking about her child".

The cashier who works a twelve-hour shift.








Whether or not you have a life, YOU decide. Yes, there are powers beyond us that set our paths, but we choose the steps we take. Whether we zigzag, skip, run, or curl up and stop entirely.


Above all, stop blaming circumstances.